Help! My spouse is watching porn | Interview with a Psychotherapist

Brett – My spouse is watching porn, or is my spouse is addicted to pornography. What do I do? This is the question I often get asked after my speaking dates. I often have parents talk to me after my talks or message me and seem quite lost with what to do.

In my last video in this series, I covered the topic – Brett – I either caught my kids looking at porn, or I found out they are looking at porn. What do I do? You can find this video here – https://youtu.be/GS_qZMoZzls

So pornography is one of the 7 topics that I speak on. I have a large presentation I do called the porn project. For today I wanted to bring on someone to be able to really go deeper into the conversation. Paul Lavergne is a registered psychotherapist at the turning point counselling serviced in Peterborough Ontario.

In this video, we will look at questions like:
• Where do you start if you were counselling a couple on this issue?
• I hear lots of self-blame for what has happened. I had one lady tell me it was her fault her husband was addicted to porn. What do you say to this?
• Where do you start if your spouse is watching or addicted to pornography?
• If this is an addiction how can a spouse support their other half?
• I have heard that discovering SSB (secret sexual behaviour) can actually be traumatic for a partner, and create signs of PTSD. Can you comment on that?
• Is there hope for couples if this happens?
• Do you have any book suggestions for people who find themselves in this tough season in their marriage?

love to hear your thoughts on this tough topic. What has helped you in your relationships around this struggle?

I have a large chapter on pornography in my book Parenting: Navigating Everything – click here for where to purchase.